Originally published on PornProof Kids ™ on August 28, 2014
A parent’s nightmare
An innocent kindergartner gets on a school bus to ride home. A third-grader approaches her, holds up a smartphone and says, “Look at this!” What the little girl sees is hard core porn. This story came from a middle class neighborhood in Boise, Idaho, but it can happen anywhere.… Read the rest
Another One Bites the Dust
I just heard about another divorce caused by pornography addiction. A few years ago when I read the statistic that 56% of all divorces name pornography addiction as a major factor, I was blown away. But now I wonder if that percentage is even higher!
This tragedy was similar to so many others. The ex-husband was exposed as a young child and never overcame his addiction to Internet pornography.… Read the rest
A parent’s nightmare
An innocent kindergartner gets on a school bus to ride home. A third-grader approaches her, holds up a smartphone and says, “Look at this!” What the little girl sees is hard core porn. This story came from a middle class neighborhood in Boise, Idaho, but it can happen anywhere.
How does this little girl react? Will she tell her parents?… Read the rest
They say practice makes perfect, but I say practice makes prepared!
And when it comes to online safety, parents need to be prepared for several different conversations. Here are three easy role plays that will empower your kids to reject pornography.
(We created these role plays for the May 2014 End Sexual Exploitation Summit in D.C. I was honored to be in a panel with Jan Garbett, founder of EPIK, Jennie Bishop, founder of PurityWorks, moderated by Vauna Davis, Executive Director of UCAP.)
Role Play #1: Initiating an introductory discussion about pornographyScenario: You and your child are looking at a family pictures in an album or on your social media network of choice.
… Read the rest
Father’s Day is almost here! Let’s talk about how dads can help their kids stay free from porn addiction. Dads who proactively teach their kids to steer clear from pornography of all kinds can have a huge impact on their kids, even if they’ve struggled themselves with a porn addiction. This week I Interviewed Jeffrey Ford, LMFT who counsels individuals with pornography and sexual addictions at LifeSTAR in St.… Read the rest
This is the fourth in a six-article series to help parents respond to a child’s accidental porn exposure or purposeful seeking it out. The first three articles in the series are Your Child Has Viewed Porn, Now What? 5 SMART Tips for Parents; SMART Parents Stay Calm; SMART Parents Make a Plan to Address Pornography Exposure.
The SMART Plan
- Stay calm
- Make a plan
- Assist your child to sort out their feelings
- Regularly check in with your kids
- Train your family
SMART Parents Assist Kids to Sort Out Confused Feelings
Porn is very confusing to kids!… Read the rest
How do you immunize kids against porn? How do you porn-proof them so your kids stay safe online?
It’s no different than the many other dangers you train your kids to deal with–first you warn them, but then you’ve got to practice “what you preach” so they can react appropriately when they are exposed.
It’s kind of like a fire drill.… Read the rest
Did you know that children are sexually victimized at a much higher rate than adults? Virtually everyone can agree that adult rape is a horrible crime. But the Children’s Assessment Center website reports that nearly 70% of all reported sexual assaults (including assaults on adults) occur to children ages 17 and under.
And this study was done back in 2000, so I’m pretty sure with all the proliferation of child pornography, that number is even worse today.… Read the rest
Kids say the darnedest things! Sometimes they rat out their parents. (Oh I remember those times!)
Here’s a story you may not believe, but it’s true. I recently heard it from a teacher who told me that a three-year old boy in her pre-school class remarked one day, “Daddy lets me sit on the couch with him and watch the naked people on TV.”
WHAT???… Read the rest
Parents tend to dread and put off the inevitable sex talk. And with good reason. It can be awkward.
But it’s one of the most important topics you can discuss with your kids!
OK, you know why, but just in case you’re new here, kids are getting exposed and affected by pornography at alarming rates! Their curiosity propels them to easily accessible internet porn.… Read the rest